Harmonic Wealth

I am not not James, yet I hope this helps

Posted By on 2008-06-17 01:57

Hi Deby,

(Before I begin, I can get long winded. I know there are those who love to give fast, quick answers. Yet, sometimes giving attention and taking time to dig in brings great fruit. I hope this will be one of those times for you and others reading.)

Wow can I appreciate your situation. My own story is liken to yours but with a twist that might help you see from a different perspective so you can live what you want, the way you want, in time, yet this minute, right now!

Deby, my dad came from a "society family". He hated it and became a truck driver and an alcholic drug addict and somehow kept the same job for seventeen years with great pay for the time as a teamster. Loosing it all to women, drink and drugs. He loved to gamble and enjoyed violence and crime.

My mom came from a family who started in this country as horse breeders. My great grandfather wanted to be a musician and messed up the family reputation playing vaudeville. They became working class.

My dad rebelled against his family and married a lower class woman of a different culture. Yet there is art and music on both sides of my family.

I was the first born. I became an artist at five years of age. I started selling my art when I was nine. I started teaching art when I was thirteen.

I was a natural for being self-employed early on. I learned the same things you learned. People with money are really a mess. Because my dad had a mom who needed me to have the best, I was able to shop in the finest places as a child growing up in San Francisco. I was able to go to the most elegant cultural events. I was able to travel. Eat in the finest restaurants. And meet the most famous artists of that era who lived in the city and knew my grandmother. Or our family.

But my mom never learned how to set a proper table. She was lower middle class. She and my dad raised me in a lower middle class life. It was very irritating to my dad's family to say the least.

In all of it I stayed an artist. I began a small business at thirteen as a maid and a gardner for my grandma's wealthy friends. My friends were always very poor or very wealthy. As I lived in both worlds growing up.

What I learned is the "nouveau riche" are always going to live a different way of life from the old money my family had. The two are not the same.

I grew up able to sell anyone under the table to date. I have never sold anything with anyone who was able to outsell me, once in my career. I left being an artist for twelve years to study sales and marketing working for others. I am in my twenty first year right now as a self-employed artist.

Deby in all of this, I live your story. Daily. People with money to burn more often want a deal more than they value my art.

My mom and dad told me the only people who make it financiially in this life are people who step on others to get there.

I knew I had a purpose since I was fifteen. I knew if I was to honor life at all, I needed to strive to be the best. I was in the art world at that time and learned painfully how connections are more valuable than money. And money more valuable than talent. I learned that cunning games were more valuable to those with the money than the quality and the integrity, talent and skill I have as an artist. Or my need for honesty and devotion in relationships for the well being of all.

I started selling the idea of ethical sales twenty years ago and was bashed like hell in the sales industry. Only now, especially since "What In The Bleep Do We Know" and "The Secret" came out are people jumping to save themselves trying to look like they care.

The fact is, some actually do.

I learned however along the path that all of it is true. I also learned that none of it is.

To date the nouveau riche are a pain in the neck. Yet some of them are the most giving and caring in the world.  What they think classy is however, is a different animal compared to old money. The silk flowers in the house is one difference. Buying for fads is another. When old money buy my art, they do it because it means something to their souls. Or they cherish my skill and talent. When the new money buy my art they do it because it is fun for the room they are decorating. New money spends like money is never going to run out.

The very wealthy and the very poor are on the same side of the table. Every one hates them. They are usually very kind to each other. New money has little time for anyone who does not have more money than they have. As a general rule.

I studied the success stories of men who got rich on their own. The new money guys. All of them went through what I lived. My working class family told me I would loose my soul if I went for the manifestation of my potential in life.

In school I was hated because I was chosen to teach art and given special support to develop my talent into skills. I was invited to teach art in San Francisco at the De Young Museum Fine Art School, when I was sixteen. I was invited to my first account I. Magnins twenty one years ago. My fifth was Gumps. I was in Bloomingdale's and all over SoHo in New York. I was invited to have my work on Rodeo Drive in L.A. It goes on to this day, totally exclusive, totally high-end. Only the finest accounts in the world. I have had long lasting patrons who left me only at death. I have had many new money investors seek to work with me as a partner because my art has the "IT" factor. I recently gave a piece to someone who inspires me to paint. I saw the book they put out in another language with my exact look, redone by a computer graphic artist. With the exact lines I used in the piece I gave them. I asked the office of this person if they mind if I do something with the piece as it had their words on it. No one got back to me. I only saw my look on the cover of the new book.

I loose accounts a lot when people learn of my culture. Or the cultures of my children. I loose accounts not being able to make parties because I do not hob nob, name drop or play tricks or do favors to get my money. I loose accounts and friends when they find out I do not have the money they do. 

I am learning to stop looking at those things. I am now in the place of knowing few and far between we are, but we who care and who are kind are here. In every walk of life. It is for me to attract them. To continue to try new ways to function in business to overcome the stuff that is very real out there.

Deby I was never motivated to find money because I saw what my dad went through with his family. I saw what my family went through with others trying to get to know them and yet only wanted another connection. I was never and I am still NOT motivated by making a lot of money. I never will be.

I am motivated being my best. THAT motivates me. The money is a natural by-product.

I used to get totally frustrated with the people who grew up in virtual poverty to grind like hell to become rich and famous. They are not people who let themselves align with anyone who is not making more than they do. They become shallow. Thinking they are so spiritual or loving. Using the pain they had as children as the tool to become rich. Not cool. There is a lot of crap tied up in someone like this. And they do not even know it! They can be very sensative and yet totally shallow all at the same time.

They can be exceptions to the rule. I know there are some somewhere. I just have not met any. I am around money all the time as I have nothing in common with those who do not have money. My art is expensive and only money people understand.

In this I know there are fantastic, fun, great people I will have life long friendships with and life long business relationships with and make tons of money together doing awesome things for life. So what if I have not gotten to know any of these folks yet. I was not ready. I was still moaning about the negative. Now I am ready, living in the positive.

Beyond this Deby, I love elegant things. I love to hang out and take my breaks in fine hotels. I think it is fun! I love fine fabrics and the best of everything. I love to eat and do eat organic and mostly raw. I love Harmonic Wealth as it describes who I am and how I live.

So Deby you see, I live your life and yet I do not. And that is why I am writing to you. I am here to encourage you past all of this stuff.

It is all just stuff Deby. Stuff we can put behind us, right this minute! Life each second is born anew!

You were created by a divine energy. An energy of pure and perfect excellence. It is our birth right to be the best. It is our birth right to be excellent in all of our ways. It is our birth right to make a lot of money and have abundance in life.

It is not our problem that many people do not understand being nice. But the people who are working class are no better than the pain in the neck new money people. They are totally ignorant to the amount of energy, excellence and devotion new money must have in order to make that dough.

They look at what others are doing instead of living life themselves. Like the sillyness of watching TV moaning about how the rich and famous live, instead of looking around the house to see a way to make it more enjoyable to live in.

The point is Deby, all sides are going to be filled with crap. Judgements, ignorance, attitudes, selfishness, self hate and hatred towards others. That is why we have the term, "1%ers" Only one percent of us ever really makes the most out of life.

You Deby got wounded as I did by people with money. In our own families. In addition I saw what my relatives had to endure as a society family. I saw what I went through even to this day with a dad who left all that to be working class, a drug addict and an alcholic in response to the way money people live life.

Deby we need to realize none of it matters. It is all good for one thing. To let us look at ourselves and who we want to be.

I choose to create art with a spiritual purpose. I am a mystic who feels art should be useful. I drive my fellow artists nuts. They call me a sell out. I need the art to be used for practical, useful items. If it is going to be hanging on the wall, it has to have spiritual meaning or it is a waste of my time. Like folly. Art for arts sake is like chasing the wind for me. If an artist has the "IT" talent, we have a place in life to use it for the greater good.

Yet I married poor artists as husbands. Because my professor in college told me I had to marry a rich man because my talent deserves this sort of support. I got pissed and married poor men thinking my talent and ability to market and sell would pull us through. Not so, I learned I was the best according to the industry. The men I married were not willing to rise up. I lost my business a few times to them. I lost my reputation and was told by the industry not to come back until I learned to keep foolish men out of my life.

In all of this Deby, I hope you are seeing several sides maybe you have not lived.

In all of this beloved, you are precious! Your husband and family are all precious! Created in the likeness of the Creators image. Divine in your very nature.

So are each of us. Every single ahole, jurk, yadah, pooh hoo out there is precious and divine. As are the lovely, sweet kind precious souls who give a damned about the earth and each other.

It is for us to love, to forgive, lest the Creator choose to forget to forgive us. We must not judge lest we be judged. I love the one the Chosen One gave us. "How dare we notice the thorn in our brothers eyes, when we have a log in our own".

Deby you and I are the grandmothers now. We are the older women of our families. I know it is appropriate to learn to be great money makers. To raise up a generation of people who see people with money can be good, kind and have deep integrity. 

Now for your credit card dept. You do not have to loose right now. Get bold. Call your creditors and make a new deal. Try it. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. They KNOW they will make more money on you if you re-negotiate than totally default. And you can save yourself and your family financially.

Next, there are hospitals in every city who are there forced to serve without concern for someone's ability to pay. No the care is not as good. But you can still use the emergency room and pay in a way that does not break you.

In fact all of your bills are possible to renegotiate. It can be draining. There are those out there with businesses who will do this for you. But it is really cool when you can gather the strength to do it yourself.

In addition, I am not suggesting that you seek Pro Bono, I am suggesting that you call around to the doctors in your area. There is one who cares enough to help. To take payments you can afford.

Next, I have been practicing alternative medicine for twenty some years. I know with diet, faith, attitude, exercise, love, all things are possible. Believe in only the best, BE THE BEST you know how to be. The woman is the spirit of the home. You can change everyone as you change and lift up yourself!

Honor life with wisdom and looking at what you can do. For what you can not do is only an idea you give yourself based on what you think is real. Real is subjective. Science has proven this.

Next, your husband can't get past his feelings because that is what he believes and that is what you say! He can if he wants to!

We see what we want to see. We believe what we want to believe. We live the way we want to and often do it in a negative way in response to what others are doing or not doing. That is our fault.

Here, you have the invitation to change what you want to change in your life, right this minute.

You can say to your yourself and your husband, "Honey, Let's Heal"!

You can say to yourself, "bless the negative folks in life. I wish them miracles of love and integrity.  I am positive and I am attracting positive people in my life. In every walk of life! I am attracting what I need to change my understanding and my mentality to see the open doors instead of the stumbling blocks. I am choosing thankfulness and gratitude as my focus. I am choosing to find, know, live and BE the Best"!

You can do this right this minute. And from this second have an outstanding life living it in the highest! It is a gift from the Creator to you and each one of us. Your mind has the power to control itself.

Trick- When the crap comes up a thousand times a day as it will until you train your mind otherwise, choose to stop the broken record or the movie and say to yourself, "Stop! I am not listening! Next"! Then look around FAST to see what you can get into that is grand! Making your house nicer to look at just by changing what you have around. Notice how precious someone you love is in your heart, even if they are fussy in the moment. You know you, find your triggers that make you smile in your heart. And from this moment on replace them each time the negative stuff comes.

Learn more of what James teaches. He will show you the way.

I love you Deby! I believe in you! I know there is a greatness in you. I know there is a life of grand abundance waiting for anyone who wants to live it.

Joys in your journey beloved,

Wendy

 

 

 

CLARITY

Posted By J. Janelle on 2008-06-18 08:38

I, too, witnessed many sad rich people around me, including my own parents. I would see my mom get depressed and drink. Their own personal finances went on roller coasters up and down. I remember as a young girl asking my myself why my mom can't be happy. Money seemed to be my answer. It was ironic though because we lived in an affluent area, nice (million dollar) home and went on vacations. Being older now I know that it was the roller coaster of financial stress that got to her.

But, I just could not accept that money should dictate your happiness. So I make a "decision" that I would be happy regardless of my finances. I "decided" that I would love and appreciate my children despite any money problems.... can you see where I was headed for with my own personal finances?

Yes, we have been just scraping by for years now, and yes, I fully enjoy my children and have a "recession-proof" marriage. But our finances are something else! If our core desires can be broken down to three things, money, happiness and love, I had two of the three mastered.

Then, in November I had an epiphany about personalities and how we all react to our lives. The clarity it has given me has been phenomenal. I have now begun the very exciting process of teaching it to others. People are amazed at how easy it is to understand. It is funny to discuss with people because they try to “find a hole” in the theory, but can’t. (I actually appreciate when others do this since it helps strengthen my own resolve about how true this is and builds my teaching confidence levels.)

If you would like, my book is coming out next month. If you email me I will send you a copy of my book. It just might give you the clarity it has given me and allow you to move past the anger you have towards “rich” people. www.ellanova.com You can find my email address on my website. Just mention you are the person on James Ray’s website. Additionally, feel free to ask me any questions.

God bless you on your journey. I know you will find the answers you are seeking.