Harmonic Wealth

It's not about you....

Posted By Brenda Mehta on 2008-12-01 15:44

You never HAD the girl of your dreams.  A relationship is not a possession.  You were sharing your life with someone, and now that person has changed their course and wants to continue on their journey...without you. 

You are certainly entitled to feel confused, sad and lost as you come to accept what has happened, but by making the choice to love yourself, be grateful for your life, and experience joy in the blessings you have, you will, in time, attract someone into your life who finds joy in sharing those blessings with you.  They will also bring their own joys blessings into your life to share with you.

Hang in there, time does indeed heal.

 

 

I agree

Posted By Mel on 2008-12-17 00:17

You are so lucky to have had such a great connection. i think you need to be thankful and know that you have the ability to attract someone so special in your life. There is a time to grieve but make it short as there are plenty of special people out there waiting to find someone they can enjoy being with whether it be for a short time or forever.

Enjoy the journey....singledomw has its perks..I love it. 

Good luck, take care Mel:-)

Posted By Peter Lalic on 2008-12-20 09:08

You are sad because you feel that there is only loss without a gain. I guarentee that right now, either yourself or others have filled these apparent voids that she has left, you only need to look for them. Nothing is missing, you only percieve it is. There is no loss, only love, love being everything positive and negative.

For example, if you used to go for walks, who are you going for walks with now, or what are you doing instead? Its there, all of it, just find it. 

           Peter....

 

I too have just lost a Partner

Posted By Krysia Cenkner on 2008-12-27 19:20

Like yourself I am stunned at the recent loss of someone I though was my perfect mate. I can hardly write down what I need to say - which is Look for the Lessons. As hurt as I am it is what keeps me going right now.  

K

It's Okay

Posted By Yvette on 2009-01-07 17:01

It's okay to feel sad and alone, wanting her back.  Feel it.  Recognize those feelings, see them, talk to them.  It hurts so bad because you are trying not to feel them.  You're trying to be grateful in a time when you really feel that life sucks.  That's okay.  Life does suck.  But understand and allow those feelings of suckiness to surface.  Hurt, cry, feel sad, it's all okay.  But be present with these emotions be honest about what you are feeling.  Each time you face them and aknowledge them you are giving yourself the choice to keep dwelling in them or letting them go.

 

Can I intend to have her back?

Posted By James on 2009-01-19 08:13

Is it OK to work toward intending to have her back into my life?  With a better and happier relationship?

you can intend all you want...

Posted By self.made on 2009-03-10 13:10

take it all the way...

BE the person that everyone will want.  you can only demand of another what you exemplify in yourself.  when i was younger, I yearned for a girl that i had dated - in hindsight we were technically b/f g/f - but she never truly recognized it publicly as such.  different story, different issue compared to yours.  i certainly had put her up on a pedestal - foolish youth and heart, but i don't regret my experiences (however naive as a youth)... 

ANYWAY... my point... EMBODY the ideal person you would like to be... trust me, you will have a larger selection than ever imagined when you're being the best you can be and people are attracted to you because of your personal excellence.

expand your horizons son... there's more to life than any one person... no matter how amazing you may believe her to be.  alas, no one can teach nor describe this to you til you step out to find out for yourself.  trust there is more ... b/c when you seek it, you will certainly find it.

good luck... be the person she will regret leaving... and if you care by that time, maybe she'll turn around and go out with you again.  but by then, your world will have grown and your network so much more... and the choices for dating - unlimited!

sm2009